Q&A: Is having a family discouraged within special forces units?

Question by Andreas T: Is having a family discouraged within special forces units?
When selecting people for special forces occupations, is whether they are married or have kids a factor for selection? Is having a family and kids discouraged? It would probably be hard for families with a father in the special forces, right? If there are people in the special forces with families, are they allowed to tell them that they are going on missions?

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No having a family is not a problem.

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6 Responses to Q&A: Is having a family discouraged within special forces units?

  1. lisab says:

    The only thing that might be a factor is if they are part of the EFMP.

    My husband was in for awhile and it wasn’t that much worse than regular Army. He went to alot more schools and shorter rotations. Sometimes though he had a very short notice and a few times couldn’t give me all the details of his mission.

  2. charlessmith702210@sbcglobal.net says:

    Special forces missions are mainly top-secret missions in about, I say, 94 percent of the cases (only guessing), so I suggest you don’t have a family….and if you have a family, it is best that the family keep your mission secret….even if you go home even without a bullet in your body.

  3. gugliamo00 says:

    The military doesn’t use marital status as a factor.

    However, if you ask somebody knowledgeable, chances are that they will point out that young marriages have a high casualty rate in the military. They will point out that Special Forces duty puts an added strain. There is the secrecy, the danger, sometimes uncertainty because he may be tied to a cell phone or pager and have to leave on a moment’s notice. Some marriages survive, but it takes two very strong and committed people.

    Personally, I’d recommend avoiding marriage until after one’s career. The odds aren’t good that the marriage will survive. That said, if you are willing to take the chance… go for it…. Just don’t say you didn’t know.

  4. jackson says:

    How to explain this……

    The qualities that make a SF soldier makes one lean toward understanding home, hearth and family.

  5. J T says:

    If you are special forces and married then you just have a long standing deal with your spouse to accept the fact that you have a job to do and you can’t talk about it. It’s not a big deal. Anything clearance related can’t be discussed nor can you tell them when/where you are going. You can leave at a moments notice and just say that you have to go to work and see you when I get home. That may be later on that week or a couple weeks later. It’s all in the job. You pick your rate you pick your fate is a common saying in the Navy. If you want the family lifestyle and to be able to talk freely with your spouse then you don’t pick special forces/SEALS, etc.

  6. JundaKell says:

    If it isn’t, it should be. They are in the thick of things a lot of their time in the military. I wouldn’t want to worry my family if I were young enough and was in the special forces. I had a problem with it when I was young enough. I didn’t mind giving my life for my country I just didn’t want my family to suffer if something had happened.

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